Interview

• If you have to pick one thing that everyone else should absolutely know about you, what would it be?
  I'm not afraid to make real connections.
• What are your hobbies? What do you like to do in your spare time?
  I think I've mentioned them a couple times, but it's fair to say I've got obsessions with the comic books and other nerdy junk!
• How do you go that ‘extra mile' in your life?
  I've worked out a lot of systems that keep me organized and on target. I've got a health tracking spreadsheet I enjoy filling out each day, I track my tasks and dreams in Asana, keep a tight budget in YNAB, and have a crazy gmail label filing system. Very exciting to you, I'm sure, but I've found for me that a level of organization is enjoyable for organization itself, and then once all that is offboarded into my little apps and notes, I'm able to really enjoy myself in the moment instead of mentally keeping track of it all. I think that's something I do, a little extra, for myself.
• What do you do for fun?
  One of my jobs, photography, is something I really love. I love traveling to warm places, sorting my comics, playing card games with my Magic: The Gathering friend group, playing videogames and watching genre movies and televisions. And I like meeting up with new friends, as you could probably tell.
• Tell us what you consider to be your greatest life experience.
  You know, it could be something crazy and unique, but really I do think I'm happiest cuddling up with someone, putting on some Star Trek, really just enjoying "being" and being able to relax. There's always so much going on in life, being able to truly relax is a luxury and I think we should treat it as such.
• What makes you stand out from the crowd?
  Well, besides being kind of neurotic and having some crazy nerdy collections, and besides being a bit of a workaholic, well.. I'd say eagerness to seek out things that are new and understand them.
• What are your greatest personal traits?
  Passion for the things that interest me, compassion for those around me.
• What is your ‘niche’?
  Making people feel accepted for who they are, safe to express their fantasies and desires, and comfortable in executing them. Kindness is important to me, even if someone likes something that may seem like a dark or intense fantasy, it's important to execute it with kindness and an understanding of what each person wants from the interaction.
• How often do you travel? Do you prefer to travel or you are more of a homebody?
  I'm a natural homebody, I really nest and think I make a beautiful home (maybe you'll see my incall some day). But I've traveled a lot and started being at home on the road as well - I've got my travel habits that make me feel just as comfy. I've been all over the world now, photographing and with friends like you. Some of my favorite cities (aside from my home in NYC) are Hong Kong, Berlin, Tokyo and Amsterdam. But I really love going somewhere I can snorkel and see some pretty fishes. That's my favorite.
• What kind of diet and fitness regiment do you follow?
  I'm actually on the FODMAPs diet, which isn't as exciting as it doesn't sound. Just something about digestion - not for aesthetic reasons. I eat a lot of fruit and use a bike when I have to be at my "desk". I'm also a big fan of that 7 minute workout, there's apps for it, you should check it out!
• What’s your lifestyle? What makes you who you are?
  I value intimacy and exploration above action, but believe it leads to the best action. I'm genuinely interested in all sorts of people, and actually like hearing about everyone's daily lives, what they value. Listening is a skill I've been investing in all my life.
• What would you like your followers to know about you that is unique and even a bit personal?
  I've got probably one of the few complete (as of 4/19) Marvel Omnibus collections. Big giant heavy comic books. Very scandalous.
• If you and I were on the beach having some wine and great food, what would you tell me about yourself.
  Well, you'd probably find out I can't really drink but that it doesn't stop me from opening up! I've got some interesting stories.
• What should others absolutely know about you?
  I'm not afraid of intimacy!
• What do you enjoy most about yourself?
  That I can always learn and grow, and that it can be an enjoyable process.
• Name 5 things that you can’t live without.
  Kindness, understanding, love, weed, and comicbooks.