Interview

• If you have to pick one thing that everyone else should absolutely know about you, what would it be?
  I'm a sexual nonconformist. I think sexuality is one of the few areas where rugged individualism really works--where exploring and learning what it is we really want and need from our encounters, not what straight people, the gay porn industry, or anyone else thinks we should want and need. I've spent my adult life -- and no small amount of trial and error -- developing a principled approach to promiscuity that's based on safely meeting real needs for physical affection and providing satisfying outlets for masculine aggression.
• How often do you travel? Do you prefer to travel or you are more of a homebody?
  I tend to go through spurts of traveling a lot for two or three weeks, then hunkering down at home for a few weeks. I'm very much a homebody when I'm in Houston but love traveling around the U.S. -- and since I typically base my travel plans on what art I want to see and/or guys I'm going to meet for muscle worship and gut punching, I'm always excited about the next trip.
• What are your greatest personal traits?
  Best physical attributes: my nipples, my abs, and my overall lean proportionality. Personality attributes: my sense of humor and ability to listen.
• Tell us what you consider to be your greatest life experience.
  Hopefully we're always constantly updating what our best experiences have been. How sad it would be to have had the best experience of your life decades ago! I'll tell you this: two weeks ago I was swooning over the J.M.W. Turner seascapes and the John Constable cloud studies at the Yale Center for British Art--practically had the whole gallery to myself-- and two hours later I was filming a muscle worship/gut punching video for my Homoabnormative blog and clip store, and then the guy and I bonded over bison burgers. That's about as perfect an experience as I can ask for, and I'm so thankful that these days it's also not an unusual one for me.
• If you and I were on the beach having some wine and great food, what would you tell me about yourself.
  Well, I've followed such a strange trajectory we'd probably go off on a few tangents. How much wine are we talking? ;) I was raised in fundamentalist churches in a small, depressing Texas town, came out in the age of sodomy laws and death-sentence AIDS, and went on to rub elbows with porn stars, politicians, and socialites, partying on yachts, and interviewing celebrated artists—from pop sculptor Claes Oldenburg to actor Tilda Swinton—along the way. I've also had thousands of doors slammed in my face, seen the inside of one psychiatric hospital and a couple of jail cells, and sat cross-legged and shivering in the wee hours in a Zen Buddhist temple. But the unifying thread is that I've spent nearly all my adult life deeply involved in art in one way or another--making it, writing professionally about it, and seeing and being a good companion to as much of it as I can.
• What is your ‘niche’?
  I'm about as specialized as it gets! The videos on my Homoabnormative blog and clip store hit the sweet spot between muscle worship, gut punching (abs punching) and nipple play, and I'm exactly the same way. I'm 48 but with a body more like a lightweight teen bodybuilder than a muscle bear. I have that rare boyish daddy vibe -- in fact some guys call me both their boy and their daddy in the same session. I'm not that big but stay pretty shredded year round and have very nice proportions, and (unlike most bodybuilders for whom it's just a job) nothing turns me on more than flexing for another guy as he worships my muscles and puts them to the test. (That includes flexing for bigger guys, by the way. If you've never overpowered a smaller muscular guy, putting him in wrestling holds while he flexes in defiance, put that on your bucket list!)
• What kind of diet and fitness regiment do you follow?
  I call myself "vaguelytarian" -- I eat vegetarian most days, finding that I feel better and then enjoy what meat I do eat more! I have to admit that after a really physical gut punching session like the ones in my videos, nothing beats a burger and camaraderie. As for fitness, I hit the gym 6 times a week but rarely spend more than an hour there. But muscle worship is so integral to my sexuality and I throw myself into it so intensely that hooking up is a workout in itself!