Dear RentMen Visitors, Recently RichardDeSantis chose to answer 15 interview questions and his interview was last updated on .
How do you go that ‘extra mile' in your life?
I always fight back against adversity. I look to be the best me that I can every day and that will only naturally extend to others.
There are unfortunately people in this world that are mean spirited.
They look to make themselves feel better by whittling you down and criticizing you. Looking to insult you and cut you down with words. Chew you up and spit you out and dismiss you.
When they do that- in a sick and very unhealthy way this makes them feel better about themselves.
They do this because deep down within their own self they are not happy.
And what a terrible way to feel secure and confident-by cutting someone else down,(because its root is from a place of inner self loathing).
Think about it... when you are truly happy from within then you would never even think of doing or saying anything mean spirited like cutting someone down or gossiping for instance because it just wouldn't be in your consiousness. When you are happy you want others to be happy as well. You want to lift another up not cut them down.
But when you love yourself and treat others as you would want others to treat you then words can not hurt you unless you give your power away to another and let them.
What do you do for fun?
I like hanging out with my friends over their place or having them over my place when time and circumstances permit it.
But I also enjoy just watching a good movie on TV on the couch when time permits that as well.
When I've been very busy, I can really enjoy just having my own private time and just enjoy being in my apartment with no agenda and just let the day unfold as it will.
Tell us about the best experience you have had in your life.
That was one that went on many years. Until he passed away from lung cancer.
He loved me so much. He cared about me so much. And I loved him so much and cared about him so much.
He was an older man. Professional. Married. Grown kids.
He loved his wife and his family. But as much as he loved her there were things that she just could not give him.
He came to see me EVERY week-and often more. He took me on trips. Had many sleep-overs over both his homes. Went on day trips. He called me EVERY DAY. On his lunch hour and then again on his way home from work.
He was the most beautiful, kindest, and gentlest man I have ever met. He so GENUINELY cared about me and loved me. I was blessed he came into my life.
I was beyond DEVASTATED when he died. I fell to the floor and banged my fist against it over and over. Crying- saying No! No! No! Please! Oh my God! Please No!
My heart was filled with pain.
He was gone.
I miss him beyond any words to describe. I'd give back every dollar he ever gave me and agree to never take another if he could just be back.
I won't say his name. But_____, I love you so much. Always. Every day. Thank you so much for giving me the gift of you. XXXOOO
What makes you stand out from the crowd?
The same thing that distinguishes me from you........just who I am.
You have your own unique attributes and your own individuality--as do I.
I never worry about "competition". Never.
I look to be the best me that I can be every day---and that is who you'll meet when seeing me.
Good luck to all other ***s. Truly. I wish them all well--and to be well. They're doing their thing.....I'm doing mine.
But what I can tell you about me is that I am genuine.
I truly care about giving a good, satisfying experience--in every way---to my client. THAT MATTERS to me.
If you were to pick something that everyone else should absolutely know about you, what would that be?
I genuinely and truly care that they feel satisfied and had a great time. I am a people person. I like to get to know someone on a one to one basis. I like that connection and the personalness of it.
But if they are looking for just a one time or once in a while thing and prefer not to tell me much about themselves and do just the sex only......that's fine with me, too. No problem. No judgments.
What would you say are your greatest personal traits?
All I can think to say is that I just keep moving forward.
I look at the past to reflect on what's to be grateful for and acknowledge that. And to learn from it and take that knowledge and use it for the future to improve it.
Reflecting is good. But to constantly look back and live in regret is just making you miss out on the present and makes it difficult to move forward.
The present is here. The present is now. The past happened yes-but it doesn't exist anymore and if you're constantly living there then you're missing out on your present and life's unlimited possibilities.
Just in the last year and a half I have lost two very close people to me. One to cancer and one to suicide. I was devastated when my close friend departed this world due to cancer. But only 13 months later when another very close friend of mine took his own life I was just numb.
I had to make a choice. And the choice was to tell myself that it's okay to grieve and take care of yourself at the same time. And that's what I did.
We are all teachers to one another and I am so very grateful for them.
I keep them with me at all times. I remember all the things I learned from them and integrate that into my life.
What is your ‘niche’?
I'm a people person. I work well with people and know how to tune into them with genuineness.
How often do you travel? Do you prefer to travel or are you more of a homebody?
I enjoy traveling, but....I am also a homebody. I enjoy both.
What kind of diet and fitness regime do you follow?
I like to eat well, but healthy. Nothing wrong with desserts and indulgent type foods like macaroni and cheese......but I mainly eat chicken breast, tilapia, tuna, lean meats, vegetables, protein bars,almonds. Drink lots of water, Very rarely have soda.
I like to workout AT LEAST 3 days a week, but I prefer 5.
What’s your lifestyle? What makes you who you are?
When not ***ing, I enjoy having friends over for dinner, I enjoy making them a great meal with a great presentation, table setting. I like to just get in my car and drive, power walking, working out, eating healthy. I like beauty in nature and genuine people.
What would you like your followers to know about you that is unique and even a bit personal?
I deeply care about my family and friends.
I'm a sensitive man. Not overly sensitive. I don't mean sensitive in a bad way by any means.
I think that I just feel things more deeply. And I really care very much to think about what I'm going to say before I say it and think about how I'm wording it.
For instance....to me, it is so rude when someone says to another, "You look tired".
That person could have done everything they could to make their self look the very best they can and feel good about that. And then.....to just be told, "You look tired"..........man! That is so rude.
How about........"You're looking good. But you appear to be acting like you're tired. You okay"?
THINK "BEFORE" you speak.
Say what you mean. Mean what you say, And don't say it mean.
If we sat on the beach and drank wine and ate great food just you and I, what would you tell me about yourself and your life?
I would tell you what I am feeling in the moment and be present in the moment.
What should others absolutely know about you?
I am a very honest, sincere, and caring guy. But I am also very candid, blunt and direct. I love a guy who KNOWS what they want and can just tell me directly with total candidness.
What do you enjoy most about yourself?
Making someone else feel good. Satisfied.
What are 5 things you can’t live without?
Family. Friends. Working out. Getting away every now and then. Chocolate.