Dear RentMen Visitors, Recently Trevor_Bennett chose to answer 12 interview questions and his interview was last updated on .
What is your 'Niche' ?
My niche is a surprising one to me at times. . . I won't be the Life of the Party - I'm not the guy with the funniest jokes, who was the cool kid in school, who every one wants to be. I'm the guy who is so gad damn vulnerable all the time, is super sensitive and wears his heart on his sleeve that even the stoic of men will feel safe to talk about the most difficult things in their lives. I stand fearlessly in the full light of all the mistakes I have made and have yet to make, and say that half the time I'm only doing the best job this imperfect flawed mess of a man can do with what he was given. The rest of the time I'm screwing up. I'm the guy you know will never judge you for anything you have done "wrong", and certainly will celebrate you for all of the good things you are. People feel safe with me.
What are your hobbies, what do you like to do in your spare time?
I love to sail, ride motorcycles, sing in choirs, play piano, kick box, play video games, attend concerts, and so much more.
What distinguishes you from all the other people you know?
I am forever and inexorably drawn to the feelings of others... I am endlessly fascinated by inter and intra personal dynamics, and find inestimable worth in not only figuring out what other people are feeling, but how to alleviate suffering if at all possible. I'm also a big spaz and it's easy to see why I got in so much trouble in 6th grade.
What kind of diet and fitness regime do you follow?
I vacillate between an extreme fitness & eating regimen and a not so healthy lifestyle, bordering on being an utterly hopeless couch potato. Hey, I’m human...
What do you do for fun?
I love to ride my motorcycle, sail on the bay, binge watch a new series on Netflix, discover a new author and disappear into a book for a day or three, or just spend time getting to know a new friend. People fascinate me beyond all measure, and nothing interests me more than exploring facets of a new friend’s ‘personhood’ and striving to be the very best version of myself that I can.
If we sat on the beach and drank wine and ate great food just you and I, what would you tell me about yourself and your life?
There are a lot of questions about me. In this case, I would rather ask YOU about yourself and your life. Conversation is a two-way street and I believe we are all of equal interest and import in this world. The Art of listening and conversing is lost on several people.
How often do you travel? Do you prefer to travel or are you more of a homebody?
I tend to be much more of a homebody, although given my most reecent travel habits, (a 17-city 5-week tour of the USA) you might think I was more itinerant. People are the adventure - new places give us pretty scenery, sure, but it's the people, and the insight that knowing them reveals within us, that makes the memories we have all worth it.
What would you say are your greatest atributes and/or specialty/specialties?
Physically speaking, people seem to like my eyes... This is very flattering, for I believe eyes tell the whole story.
Mentally/Emotionally, I am in my head and heart alot, constantly feeling what others are feeling, perhaps "overthinking" situations, but I consider myself an extrememly compassionate and feelingful person, with a heart for everyone - taking joy in your joy, and sharing in your suffering. I've been around the block a few times, lost the t-shirt I bought and had my own printed - and am the last one to judge anyone for anything. All in all, I am one of the least judgmental and compassionate listeners I know.
What would you like your readers know about you that is unique and even a bit personal?
I volunteered with VNSNY Hospice Care in NYC for 3 years, and believe that to share in the final moments of someone's life is to patake in the most holy and sacred part of a person's life. It was a privilege to do so, albeit a humbling one. It really taught me how insignificant the small things are in life. Nobody at their deathbed said "Gee, I wish I had bought that Audi RS8" or "I really wish I had made 6 figures"... Instead, love was the answer, with the clearest message being for us all to live with more meaning and depth.
What should others absolutely know about you?
I look for meaning and intimacy in every encounter - casual sex is somewheat of an oxymoron to me, as I believe it is possble to have a meaningful, profound and truly connective experience in the most sundry and seemingly "NSA" encounters. Originally from NYC, I miss the East Coast a great deal... although I am grateful for the more relaxed and less harried pace of life here in SoCal, which has allowed me to slow down and not only ask who I am, but invest more into each relationship and encounter.
What do you enjoy most about yourself?
My seemingly limitless capacity to find humor in the darkest places, and keep myself content and amused amidst life's turmoil. And while it's my biggest flaw, some would say, my empathy for others helps steer me in a better direction each day.
What are 5 things you can’t live without?
Family, friends (the family we pick), my sexuality, art (music, dance, art, film), and my stuffed rabbit, FooFoo.